Dear Ape,
Somewhere along the way I’ve lost my confidence. It’s hard to admit too because in many areas of my life I’m a strong, independent person who wants something and makes it happen. However, when it comes to communicating with guys I really like, I can’t say how I feel to save my life. I over think everything, I worry because I still don’t have myself figured out so I don’t want to involve someone else and I become paralyzed. And the only person I’m sabotaging is myself. I get …

I was dating this guy for a month and a half. He was pretty into me the first week or two. We talked every day, told me he like me, he was super open to me, and we shared a lot… clearly he was doing the chasing. Of course, when I started to show more interest, he got scared and I didn’t hear from him for a week. I called him out on his bullshit and he basically said he didn’t know if he was ready for a relationship but …

Wow Ape, where to start? I got into a very heavy relationship with a close friend of mine during some serious personal transitions in my life. He came on strong and I managed to push him away numerous times. Every time he was gone, I wanted him to return. I kept him at a distance because I saw my personal life spiraling out of control, but eventually I did fall in love with him. However, once I did, I wanted more from him. I’m guessing that because I had kept …

Why are men who over rate themselves such a big disappointment, and why is there really such a shortage of “good” men in los angeles, is romance dead?

The first part is a little vague, but at the same time, it kind of answers itself, doesn’t it? There’s a difference between being confident and delusional and we all know that delusional is around like girl-pants on guys. I supposed everyone is slightly delusion, that’s just a touch of human survival. But then there are the more extreme versions, like the friend …

Dear dear Ape,
I’m so sad because I was starting to see this guy who I really liked and connected with, but he’s suddenly over it. He found out I’d messed around with a guy he knows a few months prior. I assumed he knew and didn’t care because we’re all friends and it’s obvious have no interest in the other guy. Anyway he explained to me that he’s “just not down with that kind of scene”. I told him it was a foolish little hook-up and that he shouldn’t care …

Hey there – you rule, and I need to ask you a question. I was seeing this guy, we were together both living in a different country, for about four months, though it had taken another previous four over there to get to know each other initially — nothing fast – – and by seeing, I mean we were close friends, he came to go to events with me where we always had a fun time, he met my friends, came by work a lot, was sweet and attentive, …

So I have lived at my new house for 7 months. When I first moved in I had a crush on a guy I live with. He is single. But I told myself I couldn’t go there. But we got drunk and made out about 2 weeks ago. Since then I can’t help wanting to hang out with him and see him and kiss him again. He and I have been cuddle kissing and messin’ around now. I believe he feels the same. I know I live with him. I …