I was wondering what your opinion is regarding someone who has done something horrible (involving lying, cheating, psychological manipulation over the course of one year) to his significant other – is it possible that those actions were a year-long mistake, never to be repeated again? Or do you think that it’s indicative of who that person will be for the rest of his life? Needless to say, I’m asking you this because I recently got back together with my ex who lied to me for a year about cheating on me and then used information about my family history to spin it like I was being crazy and insecure when I called him out on shady shit.
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I was wondering what your opinion is regarding someone who has done something horrible (involving lying, cheating, psychological manipulation over the course of one year) to his significant other – is it possible that those actions were a year-long mistake, never to be repeated again? Or do you think that it’s indicative of who that person will be for the rest of his life? Needless to say, I’m asking you this because I recently got back together with my ex who lied to me for a year about cheating on me and then used information about my family history to spin it like I was being crazy and insecure when I called him out on shady shit.
I’ve been dating this guy for a while and everything is great, he’s so nice bla bla bla.. all that stuff everyone says before stating the problem, which is: he twitters like a robot on speed. All. THE. TIME. If we’re at dinner he tweets our food, if we’re out he tweets where we are going, where we have been and where we are. Tweet, tweet, tweet, instagram, tweet. It drives me nuts. Help?
I have been reading your advice for a few years now. I am not good with words like you are…but basically it’s meant a lot to me. I am constantly in awe of not just the quality of your advice, but also of the perfect delivery. Your writing makes sense to me like every word that Rilke ever wrote makes sense to me. I only now fully realized (reading break up mash up) that you are so knowing because you’ve been a student of life and love and you got your heart broken/ dragged through shit. Anyways, thanks for not being a not helper. You (rightly so) don’t talk much about your current life, but I hope you found/ will find the love of a good woman.
Dear Ape,
When you catch a S.O. in a huge lie and the trust you have is now shaken…how do you start over? And can you? She is willing to work with me and I don’t want to cut all ties from her…I’m at a complete loss. I just didn’t see this coming and I’m not sure what the next step should be
